From the corner spot of my brother’s sectional I sat watching my son play super heros with his older cousin. Pulling out superheroes one by one my son called the roll! Hulk..., Captain America, Iron man... the excitement grew as my son dug into his cousins toy chest to see what other treasures were within his little two year old grasp. Giggles and love saturated the atmosphere as everyone became lighthearted at the sight of the children enjoying themselves. Suddenly it dawned on me, they’re building relationship.
Relationships are the glue that holds every detail of our lives together. Our language, culture, perceptions, attitudes, even our successes and failures are directly linked to our relationships. The truth is, we are designed to crave meaningful interaction with other people from the moment we arrive on the planet. It’s our innate passion for relationship that attract us to those who inspire, empower or ensnare us. Relationships connect us to those who push us & entangle us to those who plumage our value and serve as the gravitational pull that keeps us stuck in mediocre places. The beauty and sometimes the pain of life is that we get to choose who we’ll be in relationship with. As the saying goes we don't get to choose the parents we're born to and you may find yourself attracted to the “wrong type” or perhaps you simply feel pressured to connect yourself to painful situations but relationship is a choice and choose you must!
I think back to a time when tried to pick a fight with God….bad idea!
At the time, I was single and way too involved in a personal relationship that wasn’t mine (sometimes it’s better to simply mind your own business). I was in a room with a young couple who decided to make their personal problems public. As I sat in the middle of their heated debate I could feel my own feminist edge hot button rising up. Personally, I felt like the husband was being an immature, egotistical bully; I wanted to slap him for her. When I could no longer take the foolery I got up, stormed out and began “picking a fight with God”!! I remember shouting up to the heavens, “ if that’s your idea of marriage you can keep it! Why in the world would you tell women to submit themselves to something like that!” I’d had a full blown temper tantrum in the driveway. I fell asleep feeling robbed of some personal power I felt had been taken away.
The next morning I was wide awake at 5 am. I was so annoyed to be up that early on a Sunday but found it impossible to fall back asleep. I got up and decided to read the Bible, as I stumbled on Ephesians five, I felt like a big fool. That day I was reminded of two things; one, my place in the universe, lol….and two, that everyone gets to choose who they’ll be in relationship with! The responsibility of the power of choice to completely left in our hands... therefore; we must choose wisely.
In order to take flight and take hold of success, prosperity and destiny we must continually take inventory of the company we keep. As the saying goes, you don’t get to choose your family...but you do get to choose your spouse, friends and anyone who gets close enough to have influence and impact in your life. Being selective in relationships can mean the difference between soaring or staying stuck on the ground. So as we strengthen our wings and take flight remember, choose wisely.